Therapy for Infertility, IVF, Miscarriage & Childlessness
Therapy for IVF, Infertility, Miscarriage,
& Childlessness
- Professional Expertise & Lived Experience -
Supporting Women with IVF, Infertility, Miscarriage & Being Childless not by Choice
Hi, I'm Saff.
I'm a therapist who specialises in supporting women through IVF, infertility, miscarriage, and childlessness not by choice.
I know how challenging these experiences can be, and how much they can impact your life, because I have lived through them myself. That is why I do this work.
My work is grounded in my professional training and experience, together with the personal understanding that comes from having been through these experiences.
Whether you're trying to conceive naturally, going through IVF or other fertility treatment, coping with miscarriage or pregnancy loss, navigating pregnancy after loss, deciding whether to continue treatment or stop, or if you are coming to terms with a life without children, I'm here to support you.
Whatever you're facing on this journey...
You don't have to go through this alone.
I offer online counselling and psychotherapy to women across the UK.
If you would like support, please get in touch. I offer a free, no-pressure introductory call, giving you the opportunity to ask any questions and see whether I feel like the right therapist for you.
Why I Do This Work
My decision to support women who are navigating infertility, IVF, and miscarriage, or have ended up childless not by choice, comes from my own experience.
I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility and went through years of fertility treatment, including IVF with my own eggs and donor-egg treatment. I also experienced the shock and grief of multiple miscarriages. Despite everything I tried, my journey ultimately ended without me becoming a mother.
It was the most difficult chapter of my life, and coming to terms with a future that looked very different from the one I had imagined took time. The entire infertility journey changed me, but it also showed me how difficult it can be to find someone who truly understands what you are going through, and how much of a difference that understanding can make.
That’s why this work means so much to me. I feel honoured to support women through all aspects of infertility, IVF, pregnancy, miscarriage and, for some, childlessness.
I know how profoundly challenging each stage of this journey can be, and I know how lonely, isolating and overwhelming it can feel. I also know how much it can help to have someone alongside you who genuinely understands - whatever stage of the journey you are at, and whatever the eventual outcome may be.
If you would like therapeutic support with infertility or IVF, miscarriage and pregnancy loss, pregnancy after loss or infertility, or coming to terms with the end of your fertility journey, I’d be very happy to talk with you to see whether I am the right fit for you.
If you're experiencing infertility, going through IVF, or facing the possibility of not having children, I know how incredibly hard this can be.
For many women, it is one of the most painful and challenging experiences of their lives.
You may feel isolated and alone, as though no one truly understands.
You might feel left behind, or find it difficult to be around pregnant women and babies.
You may be feeling grief, anger, envy or guilt — even if those feelings are hard to admit.
You might feel stuck in limbo, as though your life is on hold, or that this journey has taken over who you are.
It can affect your relationships, your sense of self, and your relationship with your body.
You may be carrying the pain of loss and failed cycles, or navigating a long-awaited pregnancy with anxiety and fear, rather than joy.
You may be pregnant and moving towards motherhood, but still feeling like you are more aligned with the infertility community than your mum friends, due to all you have been through.
You might also be facing the possibility of stopping treatment — and everything that comes with that.
In all of this...
Therapy has the potential to help.
Working with someone who truly understands what you're going through can help you feel seen, supported, and less alone.
If you'd like to learn more about how I support women with IVF and infertility, please visit my How I Support You page.
Or if you are ready to make a start, please get in touch. I offer a free, no-pressure introductory call, or we can arrange to have an initial session together. Either way, there is no pressure to continue beyond this unless you feel I am the right fit for you.
Please note: I am also a member of BICA (British Infertility Counselling Association), and I am listed on the IVFN Directory (The IVF Network Directory), a specialist directory for reproductive health and fertility professionals.
Miscarriage often comes as a shock and it can be an incredibly painful experience, emotionally and physically.
If this is why you're here, I'm so sorry.
You may be feeling grief, shock, numbness, anger or anxiety — or a sense that your world has shifted in ways you didn't expect.
You might feel unsupported, or hurt by things others have said, even if they meant well.
Alongside the emotional pain, you may also be coping with physical recovery, trauma, and the loss of the life you had imagined with your baby.
You may find yourself questioning your body, your future, or blaming yourself — even though it is not your fault.
You might be pregnant again after loss, holding both hope and fear at the same time, while still grieving what came before.
I support women through all of this, and more.
I will be guided by you and whatever feels most important to you. Together, we can gently process what has happened and the impact it has had on you.
For many women, it's not about "moving on," but about acknowledging and honouring your grief, and slowly finding a way through it.
Therapy can't take the pain away...
But it can help you feel supported, understood, and less alone.
If you'd like to learn more about how I support women with miscarriage, please visit my How I Support You page.
Please note, I am also listed as an approved therapist on the Miscarriage Association Counsellors Directory.
Many of the women I support do eventually become mothers. But unfortunately, not everyone does.
If you are reaching a point where you are questioning whether to keep trying, or you have ended your infertility and IVF journey without becoming a mother, I can support you through this part of the infertility journey too.
This is an incredibly difficult position to find yourself in and may be one of the most challenging things you ever go through. I know because I have been there myself.
It may feel devastating, as though your world is collapsing and you don’t know how you will go on without becoming a mum.
You may be questioning who you are now, what your future will look like, or what will give your life purpose without motherhood.
The grief and loss may feel so overwhelming that you wonder whether it will ever be possible to feel anything else again.
You may also feel isolated and alone, as though everyone around you has moved forward and had children. This can have a profound impact on your friendships, relationships and sense of where you belong.
Ending a fertility journey without becoming a mother is not something you can move through quickly. It takes time, compassion, understanding and space to process such a significant loss and life-changing reality. It is not about getting over it, but gradually learning to accept and live with a life you did not choose.
I understand this both professionally and personally. I also know that although your life will be very different from the one you imagined and hoped for, it can still be valuable, meaningful and fulfilling - even though it may not feel that way right now.
If you would like support from someone who genuinely understands and has been through this herself, please get in touch.
If you’d like to learn more about how I support women whose fertility journeys end without becoming a mother, please visit my How I Support You page.
Or, if you feel ready to get started, please get in touch through my contact page. We can arrange an introductory call or an initial session to see whether I am the right therapist to support you through what you are dealing with.
Latest Articles About IVF Infertility & Miscarriage
I regularly write about the emotional realities of infertility, IVF and miscarriage, exploring many of the thoughts, feelings and experiences that often go unspoken. You can read more on my resources page. I also write articles for the Counselling Directory and I have written guest blog posts for the Miscarriage Association.
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